tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7583517082558686915.post8266773538458490728..comments2023-06-08T01:05:18.243-07:00Comments on Autism All the Time: Innocently Stereotypicalgeosaruhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11333811132718881124noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7583517082558686915.post-52387089551773772472008-07-16T19:40:00.000-07:002008-07-16T19:40:00.000-07:00Thank you so much for visiting my blog and leaving...Thank you so much for visiting my blog and leaving such an honest comment. I hope that you will be back again!<BR/><BR/>I will be checking out the archives on your blog. It seems quite nice.Marla https://www.blogger.com/profile/03926898159751613267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7583517082558686915.post-19362137164068780822008-06-29T00:02:00.000-07:002008-06-29T00:02:00.000-07:00Yes excellent comment. Stereotypes and budget - th...Yes excellent comment. <BR/><BR/>Stereotypes and budget - these are huge hurdles, and difficult ones to get round sometimes.Casdokhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03497897393162856190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7583517082558686915.post-42452242812402742202008-06-22T15:01:00.000-07:002008-06-22T15:01:00.000-07:00neil:I'm glad that I have helped with something! P...neil:<BR/><BR/>I'm glad that I have helped with something! Pretty early on, when it came to deciding things about what I want on my sandwich or such things, I ended up just nodding and saying yes please, or repeating what he'd said, and not really understanding. Thankfully I'm not very picky (though I've gone through times of absolutely refusing pickles, pepper, mustard, milk, anything green, anything that's not green, and stuffing at Thanksgiving).<BR/><BR/>Also, I usually need someone to go through everything we have until they say or show me the thing I want. This is usually because it's easier for me to respond to something than to just out of the blue come up with a word and then speak it, and also because I often have the option of pointing, and I also have trouble remembering what's in the house, or visually distinguishing between different things in the fridge or stacked on shelves.<BR/><BR/>Ever since I was about 5 I decided that when I was older I would make an inventory of everything in the house, with a specific inventory for food, and have it on a clipboard next to the fridge.<BR/><BR/>Even if he doesn't get formally evaluated, it would probably be a good idea to talk to him about it, some of the characteristics, at least by the teenage years. I've heard about people who are adults who went their whole lives without a diagnosis, because they were able to get through school and stuff, but later on encountered difficulties and didn't understand the context of them because nobody in the diagnosing profession thought autism could apply to someone who went through school and got a job or had a relationship.<BR/><BR/>While many of us gain more skills with increasingly less difficulty in things like jobs and relationships, a significant proportion experience increased difficulty, which can be due to a lot of things, like a lot of stressful events occurring, or increased demands from others in what they're expected to be able to do, or lots of other reasons. Also, even if it doesn't become disabling, it can help to bolster self-esteem and identity to be able to identify with other autistic people.<BR/><BR/>Of course, not everyone embraces it like this, and usually not at such a young age (I was diagnosed when 10, and my dad told me I had a different neurological wiring and some of the traits, and I basically accepted it then shrugged it off like it was completely inconsequential, then three years later I swung back and forth from accepting it to thinking I couldn't possibly be autistic, in part due to misconceptions like we lack empathy or don't want friendships or are all geniuses or none of us are. Nowadays, I accept myself as is, and am very glad my parents told me. If you have talked to him about it, or decide to in the future, and he initially doesn't believe it or doesn't seem to care, or is uncomfortable talking about it, that doesn't mean it's a wrong thing to talk about it. I experienced all of those things in the years following being told.)geosaruhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11333811132718881124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7583517082558686915.post-29129924651538177692008-06-22T10:26:00.000-07:002008-06-22T10:26:00.000-07:00I'm going to have to read that artice, but first I...I'm going to have to read that artice, but first I want to thank you for teaching me something about onw of my sons. He will often have a hard time deciding which cereal he wants for breakfast, and I get frustrated when he won't make up his *&^ mind.<BR/><BR/>Today I realize, from what you've written, that he's not just sitting there refusing to speak; he cannot speak. I will demand more patience of myself from now on.<BR/><BR/>I should explain: my son is now 11 years old, and finishing grade 6. In grade 1, the teacher wanted him tested for Asperger's, but due to an argument between the health system and the school system about who should test him, the test never happened. Every time I read something about autism, or especially Asperger's, it sounds just like Son.<BR/><BR/>I will talk again with my wife, but I suspect she's not interested in the testing for Asperger's. Meanwhile, I will try not to overload his brain with demands for an answer to the simple questions.<BR/><BR/>Thanks again!<BR/>NeilNeilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14749163161371187138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7583517082558686915.post-5316054115134783492008-06-21T07:51:00.000-07:002008-06-21T07:51:00.000-07:00Good job responding to that ignorant writer. I ho...Good job responding to that ignorant writer. I hope your message sinks in.abfhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01228622726560993968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7583517082558686915.post-73098980169395770892008-06-21T06:49:00.000-07:002008-06-21T06:49:00.000-07:00Excellent comment. It inspired me to read the arti...Excellent comment. It inspired me to read the article and add a comment of my own.CS McClellan/Catanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12528100633458181090noreply@blogger.com